This would be my last leadership conference for my entire life (as a girl). Though I left half way through the conference, at least I have brought back God's love message home. The most inspiring speaker was Mr Glenn Lim. He was indeed a gifted leader from God. He gave a seminar on decision making.
Most teenagers are impulsive in their choices, they don't think( brain). Often, they fall into the trap of wrong decision because they decide based on gut-feeling/ instinct, through 'emotional decision' and typically the influence of friends. For instance, when teenagers face the decision over relationships, first comes to their mind is feeling, then under the influence of friends/ peer pressure and emotional decisions, and usually, girls would say a "yes" right after there.
However, He said that decision makings involves a PROCESS. We have to weigh the pros-cons and the cause effect and the benefits or even the long-term value. He taught us by using a STAR tool
S- Stop ( do not act yet)
T- Think (using brain) because feelings will deceive ourselves ultimately
A- Analyze ( * using compass)
R- Respond (appropriate actions)
Some people think that in order to succeed in life, we must be give the opportunities. But without a compass maps and opportunities that we have are useless, becasue we won't know how to navigate it. We analyze with our compass to make wise decisions. However, what is a compass in our real life?
COMPASS= VALUES (3Rs)
Respect- self- respect and self- control ( important for ladies)
Reverence - admiration
Responsibility- ownership
In life we will constantly need to fine -tune our (calibrate) our compasses by adding & strengthening our value system.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you... ( God plays a very important part in our life, only with God, things will then be aligned.)
Another speaker, pastor Loon talked about building relationships. It is always easy to break a relationship but it takes time and effort to mend it back. It is common to see many cases of divorces.Simply because the society has taught us the importance of MONEY yet it does not teach us the true value of relationships, now, even churches today begin to split their missionaries. In his talk, I've also learnt humility and pride. In the recent case about the terrorist who ran away form jail, Our minister of home affair, Mr Wong Kan Seng apologized for the lapse of security in
as the cause for the escape of the terrorist. I'm thankful and grateful that he was apologetic because he dared to confess his own mistakes. Pastor Loon had changed my view of abortion. He said that he'll never accept abortion in his life in whatever reasons ; be it the baby would cause a life risk to his mum; deformations. It seems cruel but if we continue our faith in God, whom had promised us that one day everyone will still meet in heaven. So, there ultimately families will still reconcile in heaven. He also taught us the 10 commandments from God and had simplified it
1) be grateful- to our family. Do good instead of evil, and payback good for evil.
2) be faithful- shall have no other gods before Him
3) Be sound of speech
4) Time discipline- remember the Sabbath day. Work for 6 days and rest for 1day
5) Be submissive- Obey our parents
- it is not inferior but it's strength
6) Be forgiving- Whoever hates somebody is equivalent to murdering
7) Be pure - Especially for girls
8) Be generous- Even you have so much. Give. Do not steal
- Includes crying with people. Jesus cried when his friend died, though he knew
that he would raise him from dead.
9) Be truthful- Openness, there is nothing to hide between husbands and wives for their physical
bodies have been opened to each other.
10) Be contented - Thank God for what we have.
