This would be my last leadership conference for my entire life (as a girl). Though I left half way through the conference, at least I have brought back God's love message home. The most inspiring speaker was Mr Glenn Lim. He was indeed a gifted leader from God. He gave a seminar on decision making.
Most teenagers are impulsive in their choices, they don't think( brain). Often, they fall into the trap of wrong decision because they decide based on gut-feeling/ instinct, through 'emotional decision' and typically the influence of friends. For instance, when teenagers face the decision over relationships, first comes to their mind is feeling, then under the influence of friends/ peer pressure and emotional decisions, and usually, girls would say a "yes" right after there.
However, He said that decision makings involves a PROCESS. We have to weigh the pros-cons and the cause effect and the benefits or even the long-term value. He taught us by using a STAR tool
S- Stop ( do not act yet)
T- Think (using brain) because feelings will deceive ourselves ultimately
A- Analyze ( * using compass)
R- Respond (appropriate actions)
Some people think that in order to succeed in life, we must be give the opportunities. But without a compass maps and opportunities that we have are useless, becasue we won't know how to navigate it. We analyze with our compass to make wise decisions. However, what is a compass in our real life?
COMPASS= VALUES (3Rs)
Respect- self- respect and self- control ( important for ladies)
Reverence - admiration
Responsibility- ownership
In life we will constantly need to fine -tune our (calibrate) our compasses by adding & strengthening our value system.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you... ( God plays a very important part in our life, only with God, things will then be aligned.)
Another speaker, pastor Loon talked about building relationships. It is always easy to break a relationship but it takes time and effort to mend it back. It is common to see many cases of divorces.Simply because the society has taught us the importance of MONEY yet it does not teach us the true value of relationships, now, even churches today begin to split their missionaries. In his talk, I've also learnt humility and pride. In the recent case about the terrorist who ran away form jail, Our minister of home affair, Mr Wong Kan Seng apologized for the lapse of security in as the cause for the escape of the terrorist. I'm thankful and grateful that he was apologetic because he dared to confess his own mistakes. Pastor Loon had changed my view of abortion. He said that he'll never accept abortion in his life in whatever reasons ; be it the baby would cause a life risk to his mum; deformations. It seems cruel but if we continue our faith in God, whom had promised us that one day everyone will still meet in heaven. So, there ultimately families will still reconcile in heaven. He also taught us the 10 commandments from God and had simplified it
1) be grateful- to our family. Do good instead of evil, and payback good for evil.
2) be faithful- shall have no other gods before Him
3) Be sound of speech
4) Time discipline- remember the Sabbath day. Work for 6 days and rest for 1day
5) Be submissive- Obey our parents
- it is not inferior but it's strength
6) Be forgiving- Whoever hates somebody is equivalent to murdering
7) Be pure - Especially for girls
8) Be generous- Even you have so much. Give. Do not steal
- Includes crying with people. Jesus cried when his friend died, though he knew
that he would raise him from dead.
9) Be truthful- Openness, there is nothing to hide between husbands and wives for their physical
bodies have been opened to each other.
10) Be contented - Thank God for what we have.
Saturday, March 1, 2008
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
What's wrong with me ?
God, tell me straight on my face, why is he so special to me. It's all my fault to start this by a crush last year. And I really hate myself for setting up this immersion and now I can't stop this love. Yesterday I was late because of him, a sweet dream that cause me to be late. Blame him all. I dreamt that we got together. God, are you kidding me by giving me such a GREAT dream. On Monday, as I opened my gate, I saw him coming down. I was really happy to see him. Actually I've thought of giving him a smile but I dare not turn even back and face him. At the playground, he met a sec 1 boy and gave him something( which I do not know either, it looks like a PE shorts) and I overheard their conversation. I was nearly melted by the way he talked to him. So polite and sweet.
God, I had never fell for someone who is younger than me before. He is the first and only one.To me, he is still a BOY. A lovable,cheerful and well-mannered BOY. Yes, I'm going to hold him in my heart until someone overtakes him.
God, I had never fell for someone who is younger than me before. He is the first and only one.To me, he is still a BOY. A lovable,cheerful and well-mannered BOY. Yes, I'm going to hold him in my heart until someone overtakes him.
Friday, January 18, 2008
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
PULSE YOUTH CAMP
" Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength, love your neighbor as yourselves"
Luke 10:27
Today marks the end of the pulse youth camp 2007. "Phew" it was finally over, but i was traumatized by my team leader because he was kinda disgusting and totally inefficient in leading the group. I think he got the wrong concept of being a Christian leader.
Christian leaders believe in serving their team members, who cares for their member, who are responsible, who eats the humble pie so on and so forth.
Seriously, he got the wrong concept of being a good leader, he just want to sit down and wait for others to SERVE him ( HELLO! THIS IS NOT A MILITARY CAMP PLEASE DON'T TREAT US LIKE YOUR SOLDIERS WE DON'T FALL IN, WE GATHER.WE DON'T SING ARMY CHEERS, WE SING CHRISTIAN CHEERS YOU CAN NEVER BE A CELL LEADER UNLESS YOU LEARN TO SERVE AS A CHRISTIAN LEADER)
My team members consist of 12 initially, Mandy was switched to Sarang ( the red team) Marcus was sicked, Pei Ern caught a fever the day after our meeting ( but she still joined us during the last two days) Ken was on army course on the third day and Raymond left for work on the second day, so we left 6 people in our team.
I think the three guys: Samuel, Ken and Raymond had really helped me alot in my later years of leading. Samuel is matured leader, he shared his own views of being a christian, his experiences with God.He served us drinks unlike my team leader bought us fruits and paid for our taxi fares . He did nothing at all!! Ken had helped us alot in game.
Sunday, November 4, 2007
True beauties are hindered by awful flaws
Today as I was having lunch with cell member, Johnathan brought up this common issue ; about teenage girls who are suffering under eating disorder such as bulimia; anorexia; , heard that those people who are suffering from eating disorder are mentally ill.
Well, to deepen the issue on eating disorder, I've also checked out more details on the net. Here it goes...
Bulimia is an illness caused by food binge( consume large amount of food) that are accompanied by a sense of lost control, which is often associated with depression. Bulimia victims usually vomit out their food to prevent weight gain.
Anorexia works very closely with Bulimia but it's just that Anorexia victims don't puke out their food, instead, they starve themselves. It begins with youngsters around puberty stage. They are usually skinny but are convinced that they are overweight.Weight loss is obtained by many ways. Some of the common techniques used are excessive exercise, intake of laxatives and not eating.. Weight loss is obtained by many ways. Some of the common techniques used are excessive exercise, intake of laxatives and not eating.
It's quite devastating to hear that adolescent girls, (at my age) are usually the victim of this illness. Couldn't a teenage girl lead a healthy and cheerful sweet 16? Who should we blame then? Yep, I agree with Johnathan's words that it is actually media who convey the message to the public that skinny girls are more attractive and appealing.
Well, to deepen the issue on eating disorder, I've also checked out more details on the net. Here it goes...
Bulimia is an illness caused by food binge( consume large amount of food) that are accompanied by a sense of lost control, which is often associated with depression. Bulimia victims usually vomit out their food to prevent weight gain.
Anorexia works very closely with Bulimia but it's just that Anorexia victims don't puke out their food, instead, they starve themselves. It begins with youngsters around puberty stage. They are usually skinny but are convinced that they are overweight.Weight loss is obtained by many ways. Some of the common techniques used are excessive exercise, intake of laxatives and not eating.. Weight loss is obtained by many ways. Some of the common techniques used are excessive exercise, intake of laxatives and not eating.
Anorexics have an intense fear of becoming fat. Their dieting habits develop from this fear. Anorexia mainly affects adolescent girls.
If bulimia is accompanied by anorexia, body weight may be extremely low.It's quite devastating to hear that adolescent girls, (at my age) are usually the victim of this illness. Couldn't a teenage girl lead a healthy and cheerful sweet 16? Who should we blame then? Yep, I agree with Johnathan's words that it is actually media who convey the message to the public that skinny girls are more attractive and appealing.
TAXI DRIVER
Today after the church service, I was struggling with bags of mess tin and some other camp stuff.
( I really had no choice, but to hail a taxi home). Well, I met this pessimist taxi driver who has been abusing his health by eating high cholesterol stuff; like the coconut drink despite having a kidney problem for 8 years. He's now in his 50s' and he said that it's enough for him, he is no longer afraid of death. I told him about my godmum's life story, I wanted him to realize that there are some other patients who are like him, or even worse than him. I tried to counsel him as much as I could( I don't know that works) but most importantly, I'll pray hard that the value of kinship will help him to pull through this hurdle, may his family be the source of his willpower to walk towards a pinky health. I will always remember his words, " STUDY NOW, BOYFRIEND LATER" :). He taught me to apply toothpaste on my pimples. I think that works pretty much!
( I really had no choice, but to hail a taxi home). Well, I met this pessimist taxi driver who has been abusing his health by eating high cholesterol stuff; like the coconut drink despite having a kidney problem for 8 years. He's now in his 50s' and he said that it's enough for him, he is no longer afraid of death. I told him about my godmum's life story, I wanted him to realize that there are some other patients who are like him, or even worse than him. I tried to counsel him as much as I could( I don't know that works) but most importantly, I'll pray hard that the value of kinship will help him to pull through this hurdle, may his family be the source of his willpower to walk towards a pinky health. I will always remember his words, " STUDY NOW, BOYFRIEND LATER" :). He taught me to apply toothpaste on my pimples. I think that works pretty much!
Saturday, November 3, 2007
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